What are your eyes saying about your emotions?
Body language is important is is a useful tool in law enforcement, love and business. Just look at the analysis of candidates after a debate or the popularity of shows like “Lie to Me”. Our eyes and our bodies say a lot about how we feel and our emotional state. These non verbal cues are on a subconscious level and may cost you in a high stakes game of cards.
- Pupils are one of the places where we can exhibit little to no control over. Eckhard Hess in 1975, observed that our pupils dilate when we are looking an object we are interested in.
- Eye contact can be a double edged sword. By staring at someone you can make them feel uncomfortable, intimidated and self conscious, but the avoidance of eye contact can make one feel that you are disinterested, deceitful or simply ashamed or guilty.
- Blinking at an increased rate is often a sign of flirtation and can be a sign of attraction.
- Eye direction can also be a strong indication of truth or deceit. Looking to ones left is a sign that a person is accessing memories while looking to the right is a sign the the more creative aspect of the brain is being accessed. This may be reversed if the person is left hand dominate. Some body language experts say there are a number of factors to observe. But that observing eye direction can go a long way in determining someone’s truthfulness.
- Narrowing of eyelids is often a sing of anger, disgust or offense.
This is why it is good to be an observer and knowing what to look for can help you. Mastering these observation skills takes a lot of training and practice don’t discount the totality of other body cues that can help you navigate this nonverbal communication.